Intimacy and love are rare today even in Christian marriages and is growing more rare each year. The greater the number of children whose lives have been disrupted by divorce, the greater the number of adults who will have difficulty in finding a satisfying intimacy. This has major implications for the future of marriage. Today we have that overdeveloped hunger for intimacy and underdeveloped skills for building it that I previously spoke of. Please call RCC 972-478-4340 to experience the wealth of health in your Marriage and the wealth of health in your Singlehood Always check Redemptive Christian Counseling on FaceBook also. … [Read more...]


I. Intimacy takes time to develop. There is not such things as instant closeness. 2. it is sustained through discoveries by covenant of commitment. "I'm with you through thick and thin, good and bad, acceptable and unacceptable discoveries. Whatever happens, I'll be here". I will continue to add more treasures. Call RCC to discover the wealth of a healthy marriage. By Pstr Jessye Ruffin … [Read more...]

Honor Thy Father

The last breath in living without being active in my godly identity came when revelation surfaced about the self embezzlement I condoned. The realization that my every breath must be mentally and emotionally in concert with the pursuit of demonstrating the essence of that identity was a tsunamic encounter. From the rising of the sun to the closing of my eyes to refuel my body and soul, I must be purposeful in connecting to the daily bread assigned to me. I can only receive it by being activated in my godly identity. it is the spiritual GPS that guides me to the divine intersections established for my life. As I read Corinthians 1:25 once, I asked God what type of weaknesses did He have.His answer was His love for me;that He never stops thinking about me and every time He does it makes Him weak.I learned then never to fear rejection from anyone because the only approval I need is from my heavenly father. Everyone enjoys the affirmation of other peoples acceptance and approval. Indeed, … [Read more...]

The Search For Fulfillment

Jesus is saying in John 10:10 that He came for people to have an abundant life but the thief came to kill, steal and destroy.Fulfillment is a significant common denominator for everyone because on one level or more we're all seeking fulfillment in our lives.To realize the truth of any fulfillment four things are needed. 1.I must obtain revelation: an understanding of truth at the level of my comprehension of the revelation. 2.I must have a role model: because it is a part of God's order to teach and train by example. I must witness truth displayed in the life of another. Formula For Success Instructions      x        Examples       x         Experience Word of God                 Parents                         Test 3.I must acquire a regiment of faith: a systematic way of applying God's word in my everyday situations so I can get the promised results. 4.A righteous resolve: a godly reason for wanting these principles to work in my life. As I talk about The Search … [Read more...]

Panic or Power

The Israelites found themselves trapped between Pharaoh's army and the Red sea. In panic they accused Moses of leading them to their deaths. He told his frightened people,"Do not be afraid, stand still and see the salvation of the Lord". God parted the water and delivered them. What unyielding obstacles are you facing? Whatever they are, don't panic. Instead, turn to God and trust in His power to do what seems impossible."Then He said to His disciples,"Therefore I say to you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat;nor the body, what you will put on." (Luke 12:22 NKJV) "Peace I leave with you, My peace I give to you; not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid." (John 14:27 NKJV). We all at times have worried about our finances, our loved ones, our jobs our health and a host of other life issues.At times it may be hard to relate to Jesus' words concerning worry. He has the perfect solution. He invites us to put our … [Read more...]


One week in counseling, I counseled three lonely married Women who were in the midst of marital affairs.  They were convicted of the affairs and knew that it was sin but did not know the depth of that sin against the Lord.  It took 2 weeks of counseling on the holiness of marriage coupled with the unique revelation of the trinitarian aspects of marriage before the fullness of repentance was realized by these Women.  In this RCC Blog, I will briefly discuss a three part overview of our divine process just to stir up an insatiable desire within you for full restoration and deliverance if this thing has touch you personal life. Key One is below and the rest will come weekly for it has three Keys.  My Husband and I at RCC are here for you and would never want you to wear the defilement of this kind of thing.  AMPUTATE!!!!!! MATT. 5:28, 29 but I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart “If your right eye … [Read more...]

Stumping Your Toe

When was the last time you stumped your toe? It has been a long time since I literally experienced this phenomenon.It usually happens when in my house I'm attempting to navigate going from one location to another in the dark and knowing that I would feel more comfortable if I turned on some light. I wondered about the pain of hitting my foot against something as I was reading how Satan was attempting to persuade Jesus to jump off the highest point of a building in the book of Luke. It reads in verse 4 of chapter one that he brought Him to Jerusalem,set Him on the pinnacle of the temple and said to Him. "If you are the Son of God, throw yourself down from here. "For it is written: He ( God ), will give His angles charge over you and in their arms they shall bear you up least you dash your foot against a stone." God created humanity with free will, the right to choose- When I choose decisions that are contradictory to the personal covenant He has made with me through my name, I hinder … [Read more...]


We started off our pastoral career as Singles Pastors and we were very effective.  We truly loved the beautiful transformation that happened within our Singles daily,   We built it on a very strong Foundation that the Lord gave to my Husband.  We were in that position for a while with some incredible episodes of life but one truly stands out that I simply must share with you.  Since my Husband and I both have incredible Counseling Gifts, we counseled our Singles all of the time.  One particular Lady that I will call Nicola came to see me because she had just got engaged to marry one of our Singles Bible Study Men named Deon (Not real name).  As her Pastor, I objected and told her that he was very physically abusive.  She thought that that was simply incredulous because she commenced to tell me of how warm, tender and sensitive he was in their prayer meetings because he was always moved to tears during prayer.  I knew then that it was essential that she believed me because I knew that … [Read more...]


Some of you Husbands out there may need to schedule  counseling sessions with my Husband who would love to assist you in moving forward into victory. Pastor Jerry Ruffin 972-478-4340   Husbands, this next Scripture also affirms why you should develop an intentional hunger within your  masculinity for deeper intimacy with Jesus Christ as your Head.  He even made us for YOU!  You are that important to Him.  I Cor. 11:8,9 For man does not originate from woman, but woman from man;9for indeed man was not created for the woman's sake, but woman for the man's sake.  Because you are Christ’s image of divine leadership, authority and objective truth, it is within this framework that He adds love, compassion and submission  through the wife so you may experience His nurturing through her and Himself.   To accentuate the wholeness and well-roundedness of you, He has added yet another layer of rich accountability.  1 Peter 3:7-8 You husbands in the same way, live with your wives in an … [Read more...]


  Colossians 1:16 For by Him all things were created, both in the heavens and on earth, visible and invisible, whether thrones or dominions or rulers or authorities all things have been created through Him and for Him. 17He is before all things, and in Him all things hold together. 18He is also head of the body, the church; and He is the beginning, the firstborn from the dead, so that He Himself will come to have first place in everything. After a very busy week of counseling some of our very precious RCC Clients in Carrollton and Mansfield,TX, I was absolutely outrage towards Satan. i experience this type of outrage because of the high percentage of Christian Believers who seek to secure their God-given identity outside of Christ their Creator, but will revert to the fallen World’s System for their identity source. This most of the time is the beginning point of our counsel because we must elevate their understanding of their heavenly identity. Their divine identity … [Read more...]